...Predicting Work–FamilyConflict and Life Satisfaction among Professional Psychologists. Patricia A. Rupert, Pedja Stevanovic, Elizabeth R. Tuminello Hartman, Fred B. Bryant, and Alisha Mil, Professional Psychology: Research and Practice 2012, American Psychological Association2012, Vol. 43, No. 4, 341–348ler.Loyola University of Chicago Creating a Balance between work and family is a challenge faced by many psychologists. This study examined an integrated model of resources, work–familyconflict, family, work, and life satisfaction among professional psychologists. To test this model, a sample of 368 doctoral psychologists who worked at least 20 hours a week and who were married and/or had children were selected from respondents to a national survey on professional and family life. This study had two main purposes: a) to test a model of work and family resources, work–familyconflict, and life satisfaction among professional psychologists; and b) to examine gender differences in patterns of relationships among the variables in this model. In the general occupational health literature, much research has the final sample consisted of 176 men (47.8%) and 192 women (52.2%) with an average age of 53.24 (SD _ 7.59) and 19.34(SD _ 7.83) years of experience. Most participants held a Ph.D.(81.8%); 58.4% worked in solo independent...
Conflict with parents and guardians
Common reasons for arguing with your parents, guardians or carers are:
- your opinions and values are different from theirs
- poor communication: you misunderstand each other and jump to conclusions
- you want more independence than they're willing to give you
- you feel like you’re being treated like a kid
- they don’t respect your privacy
- massive changes are happening in the family: separation, divorce, new baby, moving
- there’s pressure or expectations regarding your friends, job, exams, chores, even your personal style.
Conflict with brothers and sisters
Yep, your annoying bro or sis knows exactly which buttons to push to make you see red. Things that can make these conflicts harder to deal with are:
- differences in age
- jealousy, or feeling like you're not good enough
- lack of space
- step-brothers, step-sisters or step-families
- competitiveness over study, sport or other achievements.
How to deal with conflict
There are different ways of dealing with family conflict. Below are some things you can do. Even if they just give you some time to think about what to do next, that’s a start.
Don't sweat the small stuff
If it's something small, like teasing, try not to get wound up. Avoid that family member if you can.
Count to 10
It might sound stupid but walking away and counting to ten can be a good way to avoid saying something you’ll regret later. It also gives you time to come back with a better response.
Get some space
While not solving the problem, it can be good to get some head space either with friends or by yourself. Try exercising or chilling out.
Talk it over with someone else
Getting a different perspective can help you understand why you have a conflict. It might also help you identify some useful strategies for resolving or handling it.
Tips for talking it out
If you’re fighting with your parents, you might try having a calm conversation with them about what’s going on. They’ll probably be impressed to see you take such a mature approach to the problem, especially if you initiate it. Even with annoying siblings, clear and calm communication will almost always be the best way to sort things out and come to an arrangement that works for all of you.
- Pick a time when no one is angry, upset, stressed or tired.
- Choose a place where you can sit and talk without being interrupted.
- Be willing to compromise, and come up with options you're willing to accept.
- Avoid being sarcastic or verbally attacking the other person.
- Be honest. If something really upsets you, let the other person know.
- Listen to what the other person has to say, and accept that their point of view might be just as valid as yours. (This is easier said than done, but it’s well worth it!)
- Once you’ve settled on something you can agree to, stick to it – maybe for a set period of time.
- If talking feels impossible, try writing an email or a letter, explaining how you feel.
If you can’t reach a compromise, you might have to 'agree to disagree'. Remember that you can have your own opinions, based on your personal experience, beliefs and values, and you don’t always have to agree with your family.
If you don’t feel safe
If you feel like you’re in danger, go to our urgent help page. You don’t have to solve this problem on your own. There are a number of services that can talk you through the best approach to your situation and help you work out a solution.